Elsa,

Tonight I was placed in the middle of my parent's dispute. Behind my mother's back, my dad approached me to discuss financial problems. This bothers me very much because for years they have not allowed me or my sister to be included in such discussions. Both my parent's agreed when we were very little not to include us in any of their finances and it's worked, until now.

I am extremely pissed at my dad by putting me in such a position without my mother's consent. Had it been both of them, I would have accepted whatever they said. I talked to my sister, who is younger than I am (she is 19) and she is equally angry.

Together, my sister and I, went down and got my mom and dad together and told them that we did not appreciate the way that we found out and the position that my dad placed us in. I feel like I did the right thing by telling my mother what my dad had done, because they are the ones that are married and it seemed cheap for him to do that to our mom.

Our meeting wasn't pleasant, to say the least, but I did not want to be privy to something that important but not able to discuss it with both parents. It's been a few hours since we ended the family meeting and now I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say to my dad since he had come to us in confidence. Did I do the right thing by sacrificing his trust in us to keep a secret like that?

On the same level, we are his children and problems he has with my mom and their finances should not be our problem. I just don't know what to do now. Do you have any advice for me?