So, does he know that you crave hot spontaneous sex, or that you get excited by playing a little rough? Guess what, he might like that too! Or he might not, but you'll never know if you don't explore this topic together. And by the way, you'll have a lot of fun and get a lot closer in the process.

Don't hurt anyone's feelings and check your ego at the door

It's a strange thing, but sex partners often get their feelings hurt when one of them suggests trying something new, or doing something a little differently.

Get over it! The point of sex and intimacy is to enjoy each other and be happy together! Unless of course you're focused solely on making babies - but that's not the topic of this article.

Getting comfortable and killing your relationship

Complacency, also known as "getting comfortable" is the death knell of so many relationships, it may as well be a full blown epidemic. So many couples strive to "get comfortable". What that means is they stop trying. And guess what... you stop trying, and your relationship dies. It's that simple. The excitement and attraction dies, and your relationships becomes a project that you're always fixing up. That's no fun.

So how can you add that spice and excitement back into your relationship so that you're not just lusting after those hot bodies at the gym?

Seduction as a game for lovers - the chase begins anew

The thrill of seduction doesn't end when you get into a relationship. Why give up such a wonderful thing, even if you could?

Admit it, we enjoy the chase. I know I do and I'm at peace with it. And if you're not chasing your lover, you'll end up chasing someone else. We're just wired that way. So let's just accept that fact and use it to our advantage.

When was the last time you tried to seduce your partner? No, I'm not talking about coming home and saying "Hey, let's go have sex". Blah! Boring!

I mean dressing up to look your best, wearing something sexy and feeling sexy.

Some of the best and most exciting sex is spontaneous sex, when you're so wrapped up in the heat of the moment that you just can't stop from ripping each other's clothes off! Now that's excitement. And doesn't it sound more fun than "Hey, let's go have sex"?

Schedule hot sex dates

You go through the trouble of scheduling lunch and dinner appointments with just about everyone in your life. How about paying at least that much attention to your lover? Make time for that really steamy hot date, and plan accordingly. That way you'll both be anticipating it all day, or all week.