Just in time for Valentine's Day, for good or ill, is the second part of my interview with the author of Dating Up. This is good news if you are a "quality man" and bad news if you are said schlump. If you have not already I would suggest reading the first part of this interview before reading this second part.

I like some of the author's advice about dating, especially this analogy:

When you apply for a job, you want to put your best self forward, but you also want to know what you’re getting into. There are plenty of jobs that you could get in a heartbeat that are completely beneath you. And so it is with men. A first date is not a relationship, just like interviewing for a job is nothing like actually doing the job. In both cases it’s a chance to get a little more information so you can make an informed decision about how to proceed.

And now, part 2:

Scott: One suggestion you make is that before a first date you “call on your fan club” for a good pep talk. Is that something you have done? Does it work?

Courtney: It definitely works. I used to get ridiculously nervous before first dates, so in the cab ride on the way to meet a new guy, I’d call one of my closest friends and have a chat. This always served to calm me down - who better than your best friends to remind you that you’re great, and that a date is just a date, not something to lose your head over? 

In your restaurant etiquette section you list something which I have not even heard of: “Used silverware. Never put it down on the tablecloth. Instead, place the knife and fork side by side on the plate in the upper left hand part of your plate (at the eleven o’clock position.)” I’ve heard of leaving silverware on the plate to indicate to a waiter that you are through with a meal but your suggestion sounds like you are saying that should be done during the entire meal. Am I misreading you or have I been raised by ill-mannered apes?Not to worry - I’m sure you were raised just fine. I think this is simply a communication problem. I meant that used silverware should be placed on the plate once the meal is through, not during it. I’m glad you cleared this up, though. Otherwise, you might get some very interesting looks on a first date if you continuously placed your knife and fork in the eleven o’clock position every time you wanted to take a breath between bites :)