Here are the top ten things that you should avoid when contacting women online. This will be the most important online dating and relationship advice you'll read all year.

Mistake #1: Sending her 'just' a wink

Most Internet dating sites let you send “winks” or “show interest” for free, but what does this say to her about you? When that really hot girl gets your wink, she sees a guy that's not serious about wanting to contact her and too cheap to fork over the $20 membership fee. What a wonderful way to start off a relationship. Not!

She also knows that a wink is an easy “cop-out.” Anyone can scroll through hundreds of online profiles and wink at everything that moves. From her perspective, why should she spend time on you when there are dozens of guys taking the time to send her real messages every day?

Mistake #2: Not having a recent quality photo in your profile

This one should be easy, but the fact is, most men do not upload their photo. The statistics on this one are very clear. Profiles with photos get 10 times more looks than those without; and profiles with quality photos get four times more than profiles with poor photos.

Let me ask you: When you log on to a dating site and search, don't you search for women with photos in their profile first? Why would she be any different? Many women will assume you have something to hide if you won't post your photo – like maybe your wife.

If you don't like your photo, have one made professionally. There are many professional photo services that do nothing but create great photos for your online dating profile. If you want to stand a chance against the other guys out there, upload a good quality photo.

Make sure you upload a recent photo. Nothing is more disappointing than to meet someone and realize the picture they sent you was 20 years and 40 pounds ago!

Mistake #3: Sending a message with a boring subject

Fact #1: Guys outnumber girls by at least two to one on most online dating sites, and that's a conservative number.