OPINION

The Fall of Judith Regan

Written by piaSavage
Published November 27, 2006
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I am being contradictory and hypothetical, because I only have hypotheticals to work with, and abuse is contradictory. As with grief there are known stages but the stages don't always come in order. Unlike grief there are more variables at play. Variables we simply don't know or understand yet.

I just find it impossible to believe that a very bright woman would believe this to be a cathartic experience for anybody but the most vulnerable. While people are screaming about how sick she is and has been, as long as she didn't dance nude in the fountain outside  the old Plaza Hotel, nobody cared.  They probably would have excused that also as she made so much money.

Had she just talked about the cathartic experience I believe that many people would have let it stand. I think the thought of OJ repenting for himself and for all abusers was what got most people. I don't understand the concept of "repentance," but believe that a person has to make up for doing something bad by doing good.

A "hypothetical" confession isn't a true confession, but really what is any confession?  A confession doesn't cut the doing good list.  What does it prove?  It doesn't show that the person has changed, or feels horrible about his actions.  

I found myself, too often this week, examining my own psyche. Why do I forget all the great men I was involved in with after Zachary and focus on him? Why do I divide my life into before and after?

Why didn't I "live up to my potential,?" Yet spent so much time searching for answers instead? Even going to grad school to become a Licensed Social Worker was a direct result of my need to understand who and why I am the person I am.

I was a political and issue blogger. True confession.  I didn't enjoy it but did it because many people thought that I was good at it.  I was eager to please as are most abused women. I finally reached a place where I only wanted to please me and to go on with my own goals.

Abuse is one of the most heinous of crimes because abusers tend to be charming sociopaths who know how to go deep into their victims' souls and bring out everything the person feels is lacking in them. Sometimes they do this even when you think that they are helping you get the self-esteem that you previously lacked. I do identify with Hedda Nussbaum in that respect.

O.J. Simpson was news eleven years ago. Nothing about him, barring a full confession to the police and the Brown and Goldman families, and a plea that double jeopardy be somehow waived would be newsworthy today.

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I am writing a memoir that begins in the Fall of 1967 and ends several years later. I was looking for sex in all the right places. Then I graduated high school, went to college and met my Prince Charming. I never wondered again what happened after the marriage. It's a lot more complicated than that. Some people say that I invented and defined the word "hippie" in my Long Island town. If I could have done anything as well, I would have, but I made such a great hippie. Then I grew up.
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The Fall of Judith Regan
Published: November 27, 2006
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Section: Culture
Writer: piaSavage
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#1 — November 27, 2006 @ 09:18AM — Maria

Thank you for a great article. I was never abused but had all my civil rights violated by the police who were acting for a political fundraiser who thought I had somehow maligned him (I hadan't). I will never trust the police again, and I finally learned the hard lesson about what people with money and influence can do to innocent people - on a whim. People have encouraged me to write my story up, but I'm afraid no one would believe me.

I wouldn't be concerned about Judith Regan feeling that O.J.'s sicko book would be cathartic. She is only interested in money and in making big deals. She never saw anything in that book except potential dollar signs.

An excellent article.

#2 — November 27, 2006 @ 09:42AM — Jeff

Your last paragraph sums up a whole lot perfectly.

I'm glad to know one can still go too far in this country.

#3 — November 27, 2006 @ 10:23AM — p [URL]

The
New Yorker
reported that the ghostwriter said another house might pick this up

It's what I would expect as we have become a culture that no longer cares about humans or talent, but profit and too many people feel that way

#4 — November 27, 2006 @ 11:12AM — Doug [URL]

I wonder about media consolidation. With more and more of us reading each other's opinions, stories and smut instead of the published ones, I'm not sure the media is consolidating over all.

As always, a well-written and thought-provoking post, Pia.

#5 — November 27, 2006 @ 11:53AM — Elvira Black [URL]

Pia, thanks for this. What you said about charming sociopaths is all too true--that is one of their deadliest weapons. In my opinion, it seems like being a sociopath in our society is "good for business." A lack of conscience or remorse can make one's path to "success" that much easier to achieve--and it appears to be tolerated more and more on a personal and professional level.

#6 — November 27, 2006 @ 12:57PM — EsotericWombat [URL]

As I am wont to do, I tried to find another angle on this. All I could come up with is that if OJ really wasn't the killer, this would be the perfect way for him to thumb his nose at the people who used the assumption that he was guilty to ruin him, while trading on that same assumption to make a tidy sum.

Which is still a pretty sick thing to do, but no one, even his lawyers if I recal correctly, ever made the argument that he was redeemable as a human being, and even a good man would be capable of some serious spite after that kind of ordeal.

It's a hypothetical, of course.

And you're absolutely right about Judith Reagan. Her actions have been unconsionable and her explanations ludicrous.

There is, however, the nagging voice in the back of my head that's saying, "Living in a country with free speech means that sometimes you get offended."

Which doesn't make it any less the right decision to pull the plug on it.

In any case, well done

#7 — November 27, 2006 @ 13:48PM — Chandira [URL]

Great article Pia, as always.
I was abused too, by a schoolfriend, and the only thing OJ or Regan could possibly do that would help me out, would be to jump off a tall building, or at least disappear into obscurity forever.

I am also 'over it' now, it happened 20 years ago, and it made me who I am, and that I'm weirdly grateful for, but this stupid kind of (as you rightly called it) armchair therapy, does nobody any good. Least of all women who have been abused.

#8 — November 27, 2006 @ 14:52PM — MarioGeorgeNitrini111 [URL]

Ms Savage,

Excellent article, and your statement: "Why do we let so many people get away with so much as long as they make money?" Because "MOST" of the "WE" are "GTULESS COWARDS."

I was personally involved in The OJ Simpson Case. Listen to this: My 18 Minute audio tape/Parker Center/OJ Simpson/Citizen's Arrest's, ECT

WHAT-AN-ILLEGAL-COVER-UP, AGAIN.................This is just one situation of an Illelgal cover-up by The LAPD concerning me, The OJ Simpson Case, and other Cases. I would really Appreciate it if BlogCritics would QUIT Editing my Comment's, Thank You. It appears Ms. Savage that I am from your generation also.

Mario George Nitrini 111

#9 — November 27, 2006 @ 16:06PM — Baronius

I wonder... I haven't followed the story or anything, but do you think Judith Regan was trying to "fix" O.J. through some attempt to help him accept responsibility? Aren't victims of abuse prone to that kind of grave misjudgement of character?

#10 — November 27, 2006 @ 23:40PM — pia [URL]

Thanks for the comments. As people who read my blog know I'm not big on comment moderation, but I had to answer that last one.

"victims of abuse" speaks for a class of people. I can really only speak for myself, not even the people I know who were abused or who I counseled.

Obviously I made a "grave misjudgement of character." So did most people who met Zachary.

People fall for horrible people all the time, in ones personal life. It's very different than reading and sizing up people in the business world. You can be the best judge of character in the entire business world and still fall in lust with the worlds biggest loser.

Women might doubt their ability to judge a persons character after they have been abused. That doesn't mean that they can't.

When Regan made that statement two Friday's ago, she blurred the boundaries between personal and business. Her abuse happened many years ago but apparently it wasn't something that she had dealt with.

Or she had and thought that making the statement would show how great she is and that people would want to buy books and to see the interview because she had been abused.

Don't mistake falling in lust with a sociopath with not being a good judge of character.

It would take me all night to list all the well-known business people who are known for good sense who mistook a sociopath for a great business man.

#11 — November 28, 2006 @ 08:59AM — Doug [URL]

Oh, I sure want to remember "Don't mistake falling in lust with a sociopath with not being a good judge of character." Classic Pia.

#12 — November 29, 2006 @ 00:06AM — cooper [URL]

Spot on Pia.
I feel the same way about the whole situation. I could care less about anything to do with OJ, but Regan tooK the megalomania thing a bit too far.

I find it astonishing that Murdock showed half of a ball and pulled the plug, quite likely due to the lack of sponsorship or threats of such.

Thanks for this is was great.

#13 — November 29, 2006 @ 09:02AM — pia [URL]

ABC bought the interview. Only for 500K but...Regan will make her way back to the top, or still is.

We are the problem because the American will watch the interview. The book will be published and people will buy it

When people complain about the banality of publishing and TV they have no right to.

Writer/bloggers should give a damn about this because it does affect them

#14 — November 29, 2006 @ 18:59PM — Jason [URL]

Right the hell on, chica. People wonder why there hasn't been a monumental novel, a Hemingway-esque, Harper Lee-style barnburner to light up the 21st c. literary scene. The problem isn't that nobody has written one; the problem is finding a publishing house willing to market something beyond pop fodder. I'm starting to think we've entered the "Anti-80s" - the realization, hopefully, that making money on just about anything isn't anywhere near as important as how one makes it.

Again, awesome post.

#15 — December 16, 2006 @ 21:28PM — john

Judith Regan is real trash. A literary slut.

#16 — December 20, 2006 @ 02:55AM — Ben

Yeah, but her managers are a lower form of scum for supporting her efforts and throwing her to the lions.

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