Dear Elsa,

I have this continuous pattern at work that is driving me crazy. Every time I start a job, everybody is thrilled that such a good, quick job is being done. But then at some point, they start to expect more than they were ever getting, change the rules, and become ungrateful.

What is in my chart that makes this happen? How do I stop it?

Ready To Just Quit

Dear Ready,

There is not something in your chart that “makes” this happen. Our charts do not run our lives, we do!

That said, the potential for this to happen shows up very clearly in your chart. And if you can get a comprehensive understanding of what is going on with this, you should be able to get a new result.

So here are the nuts and bolts of your problem: you have a packed 12th house, which equates to Pisces (giving and self-sacrifice). And when you go to these jobs and do a super duper job, this is what you are doing. You are giving.

But please be aware that you are making the choice to be a super-producer. And at first, people are astonished and grateful. But it doesn’t take long for them to take you for granted, does it? And next thing you know, you’re a stereotypical Pisces doormat!

So how to change this? Well first, just forget about relying on anyone outside yourself to solve this. You are not going to find a job where everyone appreciates your sacrifice and expresses it to you in the way you want!

So you know how they say, “Don’t lend money you can’t afford to lose”? Well you should apply the same principal to your giving… to your super-producing. If you can’t give without expecting something in return, then don’t give! Get it? Boundaries!

Take responsibility for the choices you make. And if you are going to go to work (or anywhere else) and give more than your share, then you’ve no right to call foul when people take you up on that. And I've got one little story for you that just might kick you into taking the cure.

I once knew a gal -- she was a friend actually. She had a mouth on her. And one day she told me, “I love meeting co-dependents. I have them do everything for me. They deserve it! Anyone who is going to lay down like that deserves to be taken advantage of.”

So think about that the next time your people-pleasing Libra Sun in the 12th house decides to stay late at work so someone else can go play.

Good luck.