Dear Elsa,

I have been dating this man long-distance for eight months now. He is married, though he's been separated for two years and is filing for a divorce.

I have a trust issue with him because he lied about many things as we got to know each other through the Internet. Since then, everything he has been telling me was correct. He said he is going to have his divorce final next March. So I am giving him all the benefit of doubt until April, and see what he is going to do.

The problem: he is living abroad, and usually calls me daily. Last Wednesday, he said he was going for a two-day business trip and that he would call me. I haven't heard from him since then, and his mobile has been out of reach.

I am trying to analyze...did he disappear? Was he stuck in meetings with no phones? Maybe his wife and kid joined him and now he is breaking things off with me? I'm wondering how I should proceed from here.

Thanks,
Unsure

Dear Unsure,

How you proceed from here is entirely up to you — but I have to tell you that in my experience, liars lie. And since your man is a known liar, there is no telling what he is up to even if he expressly tells you.

With Venus part of a stellium in Capricorn, your chart suggests the capacity for love relationship that is stable, supportive, and real. That's the potential, but the way you're playing it is just about as opposite of that as you can get.

Rather than working to ground a relationship in real life, and deriving a sense of self-esteem through being a stellar partner, you are expressing the same energy in a wholly negative way. That is, you are settling for the tiniest of crumbs, out of the fear this is all you deserve.

Now if I were you, I would get my own man, in my own town that I could put my hands on and so forth. I would also throw a liar back in two seconds, like some distasteful fish I caught on accident, and I would aim him so he landed on his fuckin' head. But I am not you. You are you, so what is it that you want?

If you want to be in a relationship with a liar who lives in another country, well then you've got it! If you want something else, then lose this bastard like yesterday and fish another line.

Good luck.