Dear Elsa,

I've never gotten into a real relationship because frankly I've had two in high school, and though I can flirt, kiss, and be intimate... I feel that relationships are a dead end for me. I feel so "defeated" in a relationship, that I've avoided dating and even flirting altogether for almost half a year now!

I'm so torn apart of what I want. My mind says find a catch that's stable and worthwhile, while my other half demands privacy and unconventionality! I fear imprisonment with every relationship I enter, since feeling owned, objectified or controlled is such a no-no for me. Help!

Needs Intimacy

Dear Needs,

Your chart perfectly reflects your email and you have got to be one brilliant chick to have this figured out when you're not even twenty. So don't worry! When you're smart as you are, you can find a way.

Here's the astrology: it's your Mars in Gemini that flirts. And Mars in your chart is emphasized because you've got a mother lode of Aries - the sign that Mars rules, also known as "raw male energy". Now does a warrior want to be someone's little wifey? I don't think so!

Further, you have an Aquarius Moon, and Venus in aspect to Uranus. The Moon and Venus rule the "girly" stuff and with Aquarius/Uranus involved, you will never stand for convention and/or restriction. You want complete emotional freedom, and a terrific degree of space in relationships, as you're well aware.

So here's the problem. Well, there's two of them, but they are related. For one thing, you're a Taurus. Bummer, man. Not in general, but with the rest of your chart, look out. Because Taurus is an earthy animal. Taurus has tactile needs. Taurus has skin hunger. Taurus needs to be touched. And if you want to know how Taurus gets along with Aquarius, well check this:

Remember my double Aquarius pal, Kay? Well she hooked up with a Taurus. She was quite attracted to him, however his body made her half-insane. See, he would throw his leg over her when they slept together and she would be lying there, pinned and freaking out.