A guy thing? Yeah. That seems to be the way. Why is it that women like their rock bands because

(1) the lead singer is sooooo hot
(2) I like the lyrics
(3) the drummer is cute
(4) the lead singer is like really hot

and never because

(1) I like the way the bass player mixes it up with the drummer
(2) the guitarist sometimes does a solo in Phrygian mode
(3) the guitarist kicks ass
(4) the keyboardist is a phenomenal virtuoso

Why is that?

I know what you mean Duane. I think that is mainly because women aren't socialized that way. They aren't raised to follow music in that way, certainly not the guitar.

Women were taught music to become more accomplished, well rounded, basically preparing them to be marketable for marriage.That's just the way things were.

Nowadays girls are brought to dance lessons. No harm in dance, but it'd be nice to shake things up a bit and teach girls how to change an oil filter, or the subtleties of the whammy bar - along with learning an arabesque.

There's a great Washington Post article that addresses this topic.

Thanks for that link, Mary. Pretty interesting article. The basic idea there is that more women don't become rock guitarists because they have so few role models, which is a self-perpetuating predicament. I can accept that.

But does this mean we should make the logical leap and say that (most) women don't appreciate the musical aspects of rock music (except maybe the vocals) because they have no interest in becoming rock musicians? It seems like that's what would be required in order to finish the argument. But that is harder to accept.

Example ...

I have no interest in becoming a singer -- no aptitude for it -- but I judge, rank, and evaluate musical works in part based on the vocals. I know which singers are technically capable, and I know which ones aren't. I know which ones I like (which is a different matter).

I would never plop down money to see a band or buy their music just because the lead singer chick happens to be cute. I overheard a conversation between my girlfriend and one of her friends. The friend had just returned from a show by A Perfect Circle. My girlfriend asked for her opinion of the show, and I quote, "I just love Maynard. I would just [f-ck] him to death."

Moreover, I would not hesitate to plop down money for the music of an unattractive woman if I liked the music. Obviously, I don't care what the guys look like. Why should I care what the women look like? I will mention no names here.

Paraphrasing some remarks of the backup guitarist for Steve Vai, as he conducted a tour of the backstage area, "Normally, this is where we would meet our women fans. But that's not really an issue here. Remember, it's the Steve Vai band."

That's right, another guitar virtuoso, no lead singer, no chicks. Guys in the audience going crazy over the guy.

No, I don't think we should make that logical leap. That article does raise the issue of lack of role models and all that, yes.

But the desire to see one band over another, or purchase one CD over another extends to other art forms, well - to at least film /tv art.

Some will take in a show because the leading man or woman is hot. Bottom line.

Others will watch for the story line, or the direction - appreciating the deeper offerings of TV or cinema.

And yes, some read Playboy for the articles. Or maybe that's just an urban legend. : )

But I hope you see the point. I'm not sure I do any more, I'm tired!

There is SO much good music (switching back to that art form now) that goes unappreciated, unnoticed, or just unheard of.

Unspecific to gender, I wonder if some people are just predisposed to being open minded and appreciative towards new stuff? And some are too rigid? Don't answer, I already know that's a yes.

So, these chicks just need to here some more of the Vais and the Satrianis.

(When I told my women friends who I was seeing that night, I got a lot of blank looks)

The true appreciation of music for it's audible integrity will most always be overlooked because a good portion of the people aren't trained to listen to all the instruments. Perhaps this is why fashion and mainstream rock will always win out in the popular sense.
I agree with you Mary, I don't understand why it's so hard for families to show their daughters the "Non-frilly" things in life. Well, I'm not a woman so I will never truely understand that situation but I did grow up with a single parent(my Mom)and I can tell you that she didn't really understand my love for music nevermind the idea that I wanted to make it my career. "You can't make a living off of music!", That's what she would tell me... Maybe this is why parents don't teach their daughters about the "whammy" bar??
I'll tell you one thing... Music can be a worldly education and a great networking tool!! You can connect with anyone in the world without talking and I find it to be more interesting than learning all the different languages...
Anyways, Gotta get to my "real" job....HAH!(Thanks for the support, Ma..)

Thanks for the comment Guppus

My parents weren't overly supportive with the arts, but my brother tried to teach me guitar. I do crave music, in all its forms - though it's more in appreciation, rather than performing.