Dearest Elsa,

I have lost all faith and patience.

Will I ever reach a final decision on love and a career path? If so, when?

With Love,
A Reader

Dear Reader,

You're twenty-three and have lost all faith and patience?! I'm sorry, but this is not allowed!! You are not allowed to give up at twenty-three and furthermore, you make no sense! And I mean that in the nicest way, okay? Of course I mean it nice, I have Libra!

Here is your problem: you are trying to set up your life according to some bizarre criteria. You need a "final" decision on love, right now? Right now, this fuckin' minute? How can you do that to yourself! What if the perfect man for you is not destined to cross your path for another two years... then what?

Do you see my point? You must let your life unfold. You are not going to be able to tack down all the corners, seal the envelope, and be done. This is a LIFE you're living here! And by its nature, it's a dynamic thing — so nothing is final! I am not even sure 'death" is final, you know? Maybe it just ends a chapter of a much longer story. Maybe!

So please. It's okay, that you don't have it all figured out in your early twenties. Just be willing to show up and deal with your life as it occurs on a daily basis. And one more thing: Be careful about running around telling people you've lost faith. I guarantee you, every time you do that the universe will force you into a position that forces you to have faith!

Seriously. So think about living in this world in a way that is less rigid and more trusting. If you can cultivate a lifestyle like this, you will be far less frustrated and, consequently, happier and more productive. Good luck.