Dear Elsa,

I am currently going through a rough patch with my boyfriend of over two years. At the same time, I have heaps of opportunities presenting themselves for my career in fashion design. I am really excited about them and want to throw myself in and go for it!

But if I do that, I will be saying goodbye — not just to my boyfriend but any chance for a romantic life in the future. So I feel stuck. It sounds extreme, but I know myself well enough to realize that I can only focus on one thing and still do it well. Whenever I try to juggle different areas of my life, some areas are just completely neglected.

I love fashion and being creative, but let's face it — there aren't too many straight, attractive, kind, available men in the fashion industry. I love my boyfriend and really appreciate his intelligence, humour, and companionship. He would be perfect if not for a few BIG problems — he just isn't supportive of my career. He is a Leo and can't stand me focusing on anything but him. Also I really want to travel next year, while he prefers playing on his computer, living in the suburbs, and staying in the rut he's dug himself into.

I don't know if he just needs a big push because he's scared of change or whether I should just cut him loose because he'll never change. So what do you think: should I choose career or love? Or is there another solution?

Procrastinatrix

Dear Procrastinatrix,

Could you possibly be more "Libra"? I don't think so. You've got the perfect career lined up there. Your chart screams art and beauty... and relationship, so let me clear something up for you.

There is no shortage of men! There is no shortage of straight men, kind men, smart men, or attractive men. I mean, I might buy this if you were 92-years old and running out of peers, but you're twenty fucking four! ::laughs:: And you have yet to explore all the continents!

So listen. "There are no men" is not a good reason to stay in a relationship. "I love him and can't live without him" is. And it sounds to me like you can't live with this one. Not without seriously compromising yourself that is.

So do you want to do that? Do you want to chop one leg off and live that way... or do you want to risk being alone? Because with your Sun, Moon, and four other planets in the 7th house, I can't imagine you'll ever go begging for a partner. If you stop and look back at your life, I bet you'll see that you always have a running buddy. Your exposure to risk here is so low, it's laughable.

I don't know the answer but it should reveal itself shortly. Bottom line, I think you've found your calling. If he is not willing to support it, I would take this as a big clue that your destinies lie in different directions.

Good luck.

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