Lustful Sex is Bad
Published May 27, 2005
Recently I wrote an opinion piece called Lustful Sex is Good about the sexual marketing techniques of Carl's Jr. and it got so much attention that I wanted to follow it up with a post about why lustful sex is bad.
Do not misunderstand what I am about to write because there is nothing wrong with sexual behavior. In fact, human sexuality is a gift from our Creator and is a precious and lovely act.
However, in our sex saturated society, the purpose and joy of sexual intimacy is often lost because of the surrounding lusts of this world. Our culture seems to think that lust and sex sell things. Unfortunately, it does, because man is not naturally holy. However, our Creator, calls His people to be holy and to be set apart.
Lustful sex is bad because it tears at the very soul of the person. Lustful sex does not care about intimacy or what is sacred, rather it exploits the natural lusts of the flesh and worships the god of feelings and gratification.
Lustful sex is bad because it denies the Creator who sanctioned sex within the bonds of marriage. And it undermines the family by stealing mothers and fathers away from their children which is done through the use of Internet pornography, cable television, explicit video, and seductive music.
Lustful sex is bad because it destroys the innocence of teens and children who are unfortunately caught in the temptation that "everyone is doing it. The truth is that everyone is not "doing it."
Lustful sex is bad because it destroys the body. Those who compulsively engage in this behavior have countless sexually transmitted diseases, contract AIDS, are more depressed, are often addicted to substances that can destroy them, and are very lonely people.
And the problem within the Church is that we cannot often tell who is caught in this bondage because pastors are too afraid to discuss it, and when they finally get brave enough to discuss it some church attenders leave.
Focus on the Family has a Pastors' Hotline, and it has been reported that this hotline receives about 800 calls a month from pastors who are addicted to pornography. And we wonder why the Church looks like the world!
The reason is because the leaders are leading with a huge limp and lustful heart and their followers are doing the same. In fact, a church is only as healthy as her leaders.
I think it's time to wake up! I think it's time for church leaders to repent of their love of lust and pursue righteousness and holiness. It's time to teach that holiness in marriage and life is the right way to go. It's time to teach that the lust of the flesh leads to death - because it does!
This is really why lustful sex is bad because ultimately it separates you from the One who loves you, Created you for His glory, and made you to walk in His holy and pure ways.
Stacy L. Harp, M.S. (c)2005
- Lustful Sex is Bad
- Published: May 27, 2005
- Type: Opinion
- Section: Culture
- Filed Under: Culture: Family and Relationships, Culture: Religion
- Writer: Stacy L Harp
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" Lust of the flesh leads to death"!!!
What F'ing century was this shit written
in ? Unbelievable.
Can't wait for the post on these topics:
Marijuana use leads to heroin !!!!
Masturbation will make you go blind!!!
(You might squint a little but...)
If you sneeze,burp and fart at same time
you will explode !!!!
Criminy,I thought that this was the 21st
Century. I'm going back to bed to have
particularly nasty,lusty sex. And after
that I might call my girlfriend to come
over.
This is kinda scary stuff, for serious.
i just have the picture of HW, drearily getting up out of bed to take a leak. He's downloading huge porn files on his PC, so he goes into check in on their progress and reads this instead.
Bam bam bam clicka clicka rattle click. Shit.
Then, scratching his left ball with the back of his thumb, he bangs his knee and stubs his toe on the way out of the room.
it's Official...with Temple harboring such Images inside his cranium we must be forced to conclude...
Temple has Issues
it's ok..we still Accept him, despite his feet of goo coated clay..
/end sarcasm
as for the Original Poster
Stacy sez...
*This is really why lustful sex is bad because ultimately it separates you from the One who loves you, Created you for His glory and made you to walk in His holy and pure ways.*
ummmm..."get thee to a nunnery"
nuff said?
Excelsior!
Nah, It was the right one, with all four
fingers of my right hand. And I tripped
over the cat in the dark.
Haven't had sex in years, but I recall lustful sex -- with someone I loved, natch -- being a magical gift from God. Sex without love and lust kills the soul. Strikes me as being a slap in the Creator's face. YMMV.
>>sneeze,burp and fart
I tried that. I'm still here.
It was touch-and-go there for a moment tho.' I almost fell off my chair.
Yes, we must make the whole world safe from temptation -- that way we'll not have to actually teach our children anything like choice and consequence.
Does this vision of the world remind anyone else of the Wendy's commercial where they show the fashion show and it's all plain and drab and identical?
BEST LINE OF THE DAY:
Reverend Stacy wonders why the Church looks like the world:
"...The reason is because the leaders are leading with a huge limp and lustful heart and their followers are doing the same..."
Um, according to your premise, if the Church looks like the world, shouldn't that read:
"The reason is because the leaders are leading with a huge boner and lustful heart and their followers are doing the same."
???
Just tryin' to be helpful,
Shark
Thanks, Shark - I must now clean coffee off my computer monitor...
Great post, Stacy! Hilarious!
I think you've nicely skewered the pompous, backward views of the most hard-core Christians. Of course, not all religious folks are like this, but those that are need to be teased, and you've done it succinctly.
Love the Random Capitalization and preponderance of Exclamation Points!
Thanks!
ok - it's fine now - space, I guess
I'm too jaded to this crap to deconstruct it.
that's what they count on, Aaman
by shouting it over and over..as many ways via as many drones as possible, they hope we become inured
when Voices stop shouting back...that is when the problems truly begin..
Excelsior!
Oh, I'm still very lustful, and have a porn writer in the family - so we're doing our bit for Freedom and all that Newspeak
Paraphrasing the Grateful Dead, he may be going to hell in a bucket, but hopefully he's enjoying the ride.
Better hold off on passing judgement on
ol' Stace. She may be right after all.
Lustful SEX does lead to DEATH!!!
Haven't ya ever noticed that ever'time
some teenage porkchop gets nekkid in a
slasher film she's always killed????????
This is just a review for Camp Slashaway
Pt.3. you sinners.
BEST RESPONSE LINE OF THE DAY:
"lustful sex is bad because ultimately it separates you from the One who loves you..."
-->Not if yer doin' it right!
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PS:
Dear, Lisa, I live to make you spew coffee!
xxoo <--semi-lustful
S
===
Saxman: "...Ever'time some teenage porkchop gets nekkid in a slasher film she's always killed'''"
G'dammit, HW, how 'bout a SPOILER ALERT in the future?!
Bastid!
Shark,There's always Camp Slashaway Pt.4
Sorry man. Hey! thanks fer that Milton
Brown pic by the way, it's a great shot.
Is that anywhere near where the wreck
took place ?
i'm still very pro-lustful sex...but very anti-onlineblackjack spambot
blargh...
Excelsior!
you haven't been laid in years, nat? that's why it sounds so weird to you when i address you by your fist name. i'm always doindadirty so i'm used to perfect strangers calling me jar.
I agree with Stacy, and I've had plenty of sex with lust and without. But you will all be surprised when I ask: What is the definition of lust.
For me, it is the use of another person or an image that dehumanizes or objectifies that person.
In order for me to want to look at someone other than my wife in order to have sex or improve sex, it would almost necessarily mean that she is inadequate as a partner. That I need this other to make the experience better.
better yet, randy, what is the definition of bad?
Lustful sex is bad, a simple deductive argument proves this.
1) Having desire at our core/foundation of our being is wrong, and called lust.
2) Sex goes down to the very core of our being.
3) Lustful sex is having desire at the core of our being.
C) Lustful sex is wrong
Sex without lust is very possible, so this does not say sex is bad.
Statement one is easy to see, goodwill ought to be placed first categorically, placing a desire equal to a goodwill is a clear violation of that.
Statment three is a logical result if 1&2 are true.
Statement four follows.
It all hinges on statement two's truthfulness, does sex go to the core of our being? Proofs:
1) Rape goes to the very core of one's being aka soul-murder. This is not the result of normal violence (ever heard of soul-murder resulting from being force-fed? no I havn't). This shows that something about sex makes it meaningful.
2) The mind is said to be a primary organ during sex. If sex was just like eating, this wouldn't be true.
3) The sex drive can transform from feelings of lust into love, disgust, sadness. The sex drive also amplifies all feelings in it (except maybe lust, but that is because lust cannot be seperated from the sex drive).
4) When sex is doen as an act of love, the bond formed is much greater than what is should be if sex was not meaningful intrinsically. Example: eating a romantic meal, eating candy with your spuose romantically. This bonding doesn't occur then.
But why havn't we seen this fact?
1) Bandwagon fallacy, the majhority has been wrong before on very clear truths (Euthyphro delimma, earth is round).
2) Sex is very intense, the focus isn't on the physcological effects, it is the experience of sex that is the focus. So most folks just don't analyze it.
Lastly, just to shake you up a little if you still are not convinced: If sex is not intrinsically meaningful, why not make incest ok?
We have birth control
Eating a meal with your kids isnt wrong
Kids can consent to eating food
The fact most folks dont realize this simple truth shows how blind we are when we dont think.
Maybe I am wrong, but I at least think and analyze sex, instead of stating faith-based beliefs.
Add your comment, speak your mind
(Or ping: http://blogcritics.org/mt/tb/30212)
All of your comments about why lustful sex is bad come from this basic premise:
This is really why lustful sex is bad because ultimately it separates you from the One who loves you, Created you for His glory and made you to walk in His holy and pure ways.
By that principle, lustful sex is only harmful to those who adopt and believe in the Christian principle. What might be an alien concept to you is that not everybody is a Christian and wants to live by Christian ideals. Not everybody wants to live by the Christian philosophy of what is good.
- Spoken by a monogamous Christian.
(and I do realize that many religions adopt a similiar philosophy, but I'm speaking directly to the original post which is very religion specific).
Whether lustful relations are good are bad is entirely dependent on the psychology of the person. But like most everything else in terms of relationships, it's entirely dictated by the Church, which of course causes a lot of problems with sexual expression.