http://blogcritics.org/ A sinister cabal of superior bloggers on music, books, film, popular culture, politics, and technology - updated continuously. en Copyright 2005-2007 by the authors Wed, 6 Feb 2008 12:28:53 EST http://backend.userland.com/rss Blogcritics.org custom software http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/02/14/180522.php#comment-693527 I found this blog when searching google with the following criteria: "how to avoid celebrating valentines, without starting a fight" Last year just after we got engaged he asked me how I wanted to spend Valentines now that we were engaged? I told him that in my mind, it was a stupid card holiday, I didn't want him spending a lot of money, I really didn't need to be wined and dined, and if he wanted to get me something I really do prefer homemade cards and sentiments of any kind over anything he could buy for me. (He couldn't believe me so we actually argued over what I said I wanted vs. what he believed I really wanted) I told him that I would make us a special dinner at home. Which I did and I made him some special romantic and sexy homemade valentines. I gave him a wonderful massage. He indeed made me a beautiful lacy homemade valentine but he still chose to sabotage and ruin the occasion for some reason. I ended up in tears because of his behavior. NOT because he didn't spend any money on me. Last thing I want is a replay of last year's sabotaging. So, just yesterday I talked to my sister-in-law on the phone, I told her, "I have no desire to go out and celebrate this dumb Valentines holiday. I don't want any cards and I don't want to be expected to give a sappy card either. I asked her how do I gracefully get out of it?" Over dinner last night he asked me, "Where are you taking me for Valentines?" I almost choked on the biscuit I was eating. I wasn't prepared for that question. So the truth remains no matter who is paying I don't want to celebrate. And of all things- I don't want to pay for-- it is to take him out for Valentines. I must have had a shocked look on my face so he said "oh" pause," I guess it will be McDonalds." To suggest McDonalds meant that he had read my face pretty accurately, because there isn't a chance you would ever get me to eat at any fast food restaurant let alone celebrate in one. So With the attitude that all of you guys seem to have that we women are the dishonest ones-- how do you get a guy to BELIEVE you mean it when You say that you really don't want to celebrate Valentines? I do not want to pick a fight over this. I don't want to hurt his feelings over this. But the fact remains the holiday is unimportant to me, nothing but a card holiday in my mind. And from all the guys I have ever known-- they don't really care about what the girl gets them it is about wooing her. So how do I get out of it? Am I wrong to believe that most guys hate the pressure of Valentines Day Celebrating? You guys who have commented don't sound very thrilled over it. To me it appears that Valentine's is a perfect ploy for a romantic date if you haven't got the girl already but other than that it is just PRESSURE on you. So GUYS how do you REALLY feel when a girl says I don't want anything for Valentines. Is there a moment of relief before your logic kicks in and tells you that she is lying? Or are you disappointed because you love the romance of the holiday? 693527@blogcritics.org Wed, 6 Feb 2008 12:28:53 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/02/14/180522.php#comment-679631 There is a simple solution. Avoid all personal relationships. Period. 679631@blogcritics.org Wed, 12 Dec 2007 20:18:45 EST