http://blogcritics.org/ A sinister cabal of superior bloggers on music, books, film, popular culture, politics, and technology - updated continuously. en Copyright 2005 by the authors Mon, 17 Jan 2005 08:47:15 EST http://backend.userland.com/rss Blogcritics.org custom software http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109316 What if your dog has too much pride to accept a gift? 109316@blogcritics.org Mon, 17 Jan 2005 08:47:15 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109196 Aaman, wonderful post. I agree that pride is a strong emotion. People don't want to feel as if they can't take care of themselves although I don't quite understand the rationale behind not accepting a loan from relatives in England when the Arab/Isreali war was not this gents fault... would seem to be a lot better than going hungry in the streets of a foreign country... but then again, my grandparents refused to accept help from relatives after WWII and they certainly didn't start that conflict either. Thanks for the links as well. 109196@blogcritics.org Sun, 16 Jan 2005 19:44:31 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109119 excellent post Aaman, lighting the situation from a different angle - very glad you and your family survived the crash! I would have no problem borrowing or lending to relatives either - much better that than throwing myself on the mercy of the government! 109119@blogcritics.org Sun, 16 Jan 2005 14:22:55 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109117 Dave, I know exactly what you mean! Sometimes, giving solves more problems than getting does. After all the hype and poison of the US election contest, what a relief to have a genuine reason to agonize, sympathize and cheer heroics! (And, no, I don't mean I'm glad the tsunami happened, just glad to he subject changed.) 109117@blogcritics.org Sun, 16 Jan 2005 14:15:15 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109116 Pride is an element particular to some. Incidentally, those are not my words in the blockquote, but Jug Suraiya's, in case there was any confusion on this point. 109116@blogcritics.org Sun, 16 Jan 2005 13:57:33 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109050 Frankly, when I donate clothing I'm just happy to see it gone from the closet and off to somwhere it might be welcome. I don't worry too much about what will be done with it and assume the charity will sell it for rag paper if that's the best way to put it to use. The profit for me is getting rid of the stuff without having to worry about what's done with it. As for taking money from relatives, I wonder if that's a cultural issue. If I were in the circumstance Aaman describes I'd take the money from my relatives. That's what family is for. If I had relatives in similar straits I wouldn't hesitate to give them the needed money either. That's what relatives do. It's the essence of family values. I suppose I would expect to be paid back eventually and would certainly pay back any relatives who bailed me out like that, but I wouldn't feel huge guilt over the situation either way. Dave 109050@blogcritics.org Sat, 15 Jan 2005 23:34:43 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109038 It's an insightful post, and thank you for sharing it, Aaman. As donors, sometimes the act of giving is the point. It is not whether or not we "gave enough", but that we did reach out to help. It is not necessary (although it may be puzzling) that the recipients accept with gratitude everything we send. And Suraiya's comments do a lot to explain why they may not. 109038@blogcritics.org Sat, 15 Jan 2005 22:49:14 EST http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/01/15/222222.php#comment-109030 The Indonesian government is acting foolishly, IMO, with regards to booting out foreign aid workers in March. These people obviously need the help, and are mostly glad to receive it. But there are politics at play here. And people will suffer because of it... 109030@blogcritics.org Sat, 15 Jan 2005 22:09:54 EST