All this and what I'm trying to get at is just Show Up. Be yourself in life and just be there when the curtain goes up and when the curtain goes down. Don't just let this pass you by and don't just follow trends and advertising without thinking about what it is that you want and that works for you...

Being a woman can be great. We have these warm and wonderful breasts that smell of good perfume all chyphre and spice and we have soft hair and we get to be tom boys as well as ladies. None of this, however, can happen without your participation. I know we're bombarded with images and expressions that tell us we should be married by now and that essentially our whole life, up to that day, is merely preparation or practice.

I don't believe that. I think it's all part of a continuum and that you have to get out there, date, get laid, flirt, play, laugh, bang boots - just show up. That in and of itself is 90% of the game, and once you do that, the rest should follow naturally. Whatever you do in the middle of this advertising frenzy that is so directed at you, make sure that it is authentic. Embrace your own unique style, no matter how kooky. Be eccentric if you are. Be heard, be loved, climb trees, suck down the Evian and be there.

**note: Yes, men receive the similar messages, but i chose to focus on the one i know more about here. thx. -srp
sadi ranson-polizzotti