Bill on the other hand, though noted for this escapade, will always be the "smart guy." And somehow, more of a victim than our Monica who will forever remain a caricature of herself and one that will forever relate back to an unfortunate affair. She'll occasionally pop up on TV or cable as a host of some b-rate drama or reality show, and inevitably, she will be asked about Bill Clinton. The same does not apply in reverse. He is victim to her Jezebel. An odd construct when one factors in their relative ages at the time and the power-balance. Isn't it just possible that he abused his power as President to get some? Certainly it seems that way to me. Of course she was in awe of him: he was the President and reasonably attractive and power is always attractive to women, especially younger women in the same field. It's the groupie syndrome - the girl who looks up to her college professor so much that she winds up sleeping with him.

On his part, it's an abuse of power, and on her part, it's understandable to a certain extent because of youth, yet it's important to know that you need not fuck someone simply because you respect them so much. In fact, it's probably better if you don't and if they do not respond. The takers are usually men who are themselves deeply insecure and in unhappy marriages and unions who look to the adoring throngs of young girls as some kind of validation. At the end of the day, it leaves both parties empty and wanting. The man is not validated or any more secure for the thrill is cheap and short-lasting, and the woman is now labeled stupid or a whore or pathetic because she will be perceived as having done this person for a grade, or promotion or to win favor in a way that will be to her advantage. Sleeping with the boss or even the peer unless you fall in love, proves nothing for either party except that both are capable of the sleaze factor.

Don't get me wrong: being a woman is great and can, if you know yourself well enough, be a great and powerful thing. What we must learn is to be who we think we are, not who someone else wants us to be. Don't tell me that you wax your bikini hair for you or that if you lived on a desert island you would rip up the muscle of your breast bone and implant two large coconuts and endure the pain for a month. It's too risky and on top of which, it doesn't even look natural.

I'm all for self-improvement if you want it, even if you want it for someone besides yourself, just as long as it is also something you do for you. Always ask would you do this if you were on your own - and if so, then more power to you. There's also nothing wrong with doing something that you wouldn't normally do for a man, just so long as you're clear about what you doing and why and that it doesn't come at great cost or risk to your physical or emotional well-being.