We are told that for women, sex is more emotional, as if just fucking for the sheer, physical fun of it were beyond the realm of what is possible for us. Yet it's a fact that many women, some mother than even men, have incredibly strong libidos, and yes, sometimes we just want to fuck without the icky emotion and confines of a relationship. In this way, we're not so different from me. I think the key difference is that women are a bit more sly about it, a bit more secretive. To admit that you like fucking if you are a woman is to label yourself as less than you are, because that is the thing that people will remember. We are taught that girls simply do not do those things. We don't watch pornography, we are not turned on by the same things as boys, we are told. We are all sweet and nice and contrite, which has nothing to do with reality. Why is it so hard to believe that even so-called good girls sometimes want a good night of marathon fucking and a bottle of Evian on the night-table to sip between takes. What in the world is wrong with that? Boys can have casual, meaningless sex. It's almost expected. But not girls.

A man may have an affair behind his wife's back, and he may worry about getting caught, but theone thing that he doens't consider in most cases is her fidelity. It is rare that he would think even for a moment that his wife too is capable of such great deception, and lord help us, maybe even better at it. After all, for years we've had to play the role of the innocent and the victim. I'm not saying this as a good thing, but it's just interesting to me. There's a level of arrogance in men who are too assured and are screwing around themselves. Do they think nobody else wants their wife? That sheis so dependent that she'll sit still and take this shit for the rest of all time? I doubt she will. I can bet you that at some point, any good woman is going to retaliate or walk. I pray with grace, but you know i think that once one partner has strayed, the deal is off- the contract is null and void.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating for or against this, but what I am advocating is that women be allowed the same rights as men without the nasty and degrading labeling. After all, who wants a girl that is all sweetness and light. How boring that would be. Isn't it better to have a girl or woman with passion and complexity and a mind of her own. What is wrong with being a woman rejects the need to play the pure and innocent lamb, but who understands that one can be both virgin and whore. Christ, isn't that what every one looks for in a wife? It's certainly what I would want were I so inclined toward women. A woman-child is less appealing and bordering on incestuous and fetishistic.