Trading Words for Rights

Written by Craig Lyndall
Published February 24, 2004
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    3. That's right. This new word will describe the relationship between any two consenting adults. This is not going to open any doorways to multiple wives or any of that old-school Utah stuff. It also won't open it up to other "religious groups" who think women should be organized into a harem for some cat that thinks he is the reincarnated jebus, or the second ray of the sun in charge of spiritual guidance while awaiting the arrival of the mother ship who will take you and all your castrated, Nike-wearing selves off to the promised land. Nobody is talking about allowing this kind of thing. So don't bring it up.

You see the problem is that we have let the word "marriage" become far too important in the real world. I say, let it be a religious term. You can have it. As a straight, unmarried, non-religious person, I am going to grant you the right to take that stupid word. BUT, when you are outside of the church and you decide to choose someone as your partner, you will be referred to as a couple that is (fill in the blank with the conjugated form of the word that we had the dictionary folks come up with to mark any two adults as rights-having couples.)

I realize this might still be offensive to the gay community to not be able to use the word marriage. For that I am sorry. The only thing that I can say to that is, you already knew you were up against it with the Bible folk from many different churches. (Mind you, I didn't say all the churches.) But really, you knew most of the churches were never going to accept you anyway as a gay couple. So let those folks have their own word. You don't really want a word that people have historically used to exclude you anyway.

Give them words all day, as long as they are willing to give you rights.

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#1 — February 24, 2004 @ 13:30PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

Sorry about the trackbacks. I was editing my personal blog post and the trackback URL never left that field on my site. I didn't mean to trackback 4 times.

#2 — February 24, 2004 @ 13:42PM — Natalie Davis [URL]

Bush is talking out of his hat. The FMA, as presently worded, would also ban civil unions and "other legal arrangments" for same-sex couples.

Here is your proof: America and the concept of legal equality for all are mutually exclusive.

#3 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:16PM — Tom [URL]

The activists brought the heat on themselves. When you have activist judges making up law and a mayor of a left-wing town ignoring laws, you have to expect something will happen.

You have to define marriage somewhere. The same arguments that gay-rights activists are using to try to get them rights are the same activists that polygamists have used.

#4 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:22PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

I guess there is a fine line between activism and justifiable civil disobedience.

#5 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:30PM — Natalie Davis [URL]

You have to define marriage somewhere? OK. But to discriminate against a segment of the population to prop up the religious beliefs of another segment? Bottom line: GLBT people ought to leave this vile country sooner rather than later. Obviously, except for our tax dollars and fashion tips, we are not wanted here. Let's start a Lavender Freedom Train to Canada!

#6 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:35PM — Mark Saleski [URL]

"activist judges"...yet another chunk of coal fallen from the talk radio bag 'o cliches.

#7 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:38PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

There's nothing wrong with activist judges. That's the thing that people forget. How else do issues get escalated through the system?

#8 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:43PM — Al Barger [URL]

Issues get escalated through the system when there is sufficient public pressure. Otherwise, the system was wisely designed exactly NOT to speed things through.

Activist judges are the bane of society. They are the least democratic and answerable part of the system.

#9 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:48PM — Mark Saleski [URL]

conservatives seemed to have no problem with judicial activism when bush was 'elected'.

ah, but that was probably 'jurisprudence'.

or something.

#10 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:50PM — Natalie Davis [URL]

Mark, I believe it was most assuredly "something."

#11 — February 24, 2004 @ 14:55PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

Please... let's keep this on target. This isn't about right vs. left. This is a specific issue in which not all people on the right agree with the president to be sure.

#12 — February 24, 2004 @ 15:13PM — P6 [URL]

There's a biological term for marriage: pair bonding. I think "bonding" would be a reasonable term. You could even be more accepting than the religious right and recognize the religious ritual as establishing a bond. If polygamy really bothers you (why it would is beyond me) then usethe whole biological term.

#13 — February 24, 2004 @ 15:43PM — Eric Olsen

That's very sharp P6 - we need a neutral term.

I am still trying to figure out what the big problem is with this beyond the religious prohibitions that aren't supposed to figure in our civil system anyway: separation of church and state remember? It's what we are demanding of the Islams, and rightly so, but this just doesn't make sense for a secular society. I guess it really is crap political grandstanding - no compassionate conservatism here.

#14 — February 24, 2004 @ 15:48PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

Eric, this is why whenever Bush uses the word "sanctity" I just cringe.

#15 — February 24, 2004 @ 15:53PM — Mark Saleski [URL]

it does make you wonder...would there be any different reactions to this if the president was saying that we need to protect the holiness of marriage?

#16 — February 24, 2004 @ 15:57PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

What do you mean Mark? They are saying the same thing. Do you just mean that less people know what "sanctity" means?

#17 — February 24, 2004 @ 16:15PM — Mark Saleski [URL]

yes, exactly.

you and others have said it before as well: the government doesn't have any business protecting the holiness of anything.

#18 — February 24, 2004 @ 17:25PM — Craig Lyndall [URL]

Mark, I wonder if Bush's back-room folk had anything to do with him using the word sanctity instead of something more obvious to a TON of people.

#19 — February 24, 2004 @ 17:30PM — Eric Olsen

I think we should preserve the theopathy of marriage.

#20 — February 24, 2004 @ 17:34PM — gerrard [URL]

"Nobody is talking about allowing this kind of thing. So don't bring it up."

I'm curious, what's so inherently bad about polygamy?

#21 — February 24, 2004 @ 17:37PM — Eric Olsen

It is inherently exploitative, bad for children, bad for society, and, ... oh yeah... EVIL

#22 — February 24, 2004 @ 17:49PM — gerrard [URL]

Sorry for not being precise, what about polygamy is inherently exploitative? Have you studied Tibetan societies that practice polyandry? What evidence do you have to suggest that it's inherently bad for children, society, pets, etc?

Who decided that polygamy is evil? Your morals? Some religion?

I'm not by any means a polygamist (I can bearly take care of the one gf i have), but I'm curious as to what facts everyone bases their hatred of polygamy on. I've yet to hear a sound argument that wasn't based on personal morals.

#23 — February 24, 2004 @ 18:01PM — Eric Olsen

Gerrard, check out several of the comments on this post for some links and details supporting what I somewhat glibly stated here.

#24 — February 24, 2004 @ 18:25PM — gerrard [URL]

I'm about to head out, so I just quickly skimmed some of the contents on the other post, but I didn't see anything that includes a fact about why polyamory is inherently exploitative.

The only fact I saw (which I don't have time to research, so I'll take it at face value) described how it has been harmful to people in one town in Utah. Considering the fact that that comment described what sounds to my ears like borderline pedophilia, I'm not sure I buy the argument that the experience of some rogue Mormons is proof that polyandry in parts of Tibet is Evil.

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