Mother and Child Reunion

Written by Natalie Davis
Published December 26, 2003

For more than 20 years, truth has been the center of photographer Gay Block's career. Most recently, her work has been featured in exhibitions such as "Rescuers: Portraits of Moral Courage in the Holocaust"and the book White Fire: A Portrait of Women Spiritual Leaders in America. (Both projects were collaborations between Block and her partner, writer Malka Drucker.)

Block says showing her subjects as honestly as possible is always her primary goal. To that end, she interviews the person she photographs for hours before taking a shot.

"Film and video are an integral part of my work, and through them and my photography, I try to let them speak in their own words," Block explained in a recent interview. "When doing the 'Rescuers' photographs, I did two-to-three-hour interviews with [each subject], so I really knew what they looked like and how to take the picture."

In contrast, Block had nearly 20 years to discern the truth in her mother's life from behind her camera's lens. The photographer spotlights her troubled relationship with her mother in her new book and accompanying DVD documentary, Bertha Alyce: Mother exPosed. Through roughly 150 photographs taken between 1973 and 1991, Block takes us into a stormy relationship between her mother--flirty, vain, oblivious Bertha Alyce--and herself, a serious, self-esteem-challenged, critical daughter.

What the reader sees are the many faces of Bertha Alyce: as pinup girl, posing nude in her bedroom; smiling in a bubble bath; beaming alongside her handsome husband and perfectly groomed children; looking elegant at numerous charity and social events; appearing rejuvenated post-facelift; showing signs of decline after suffering a stroke.

And then, there is the text. Block makes clear that from her earliest years, she did not like her mother. She describes Bertha Alyce as "unreliable"--alternately loving, then cruel. She recounts numerous slights. In one, she recalls her mother's anti-gay reaction to her lesbian daughter.

Another portion of the text involves a session in which Block took photographs of her mother and herself together when both were topless: "I suggest we pose bare-breasted. You like the idea, even want me to take some pictures of you alone. Then you say it. Again. I knew you would. 'It's too bad your breasts aren't as pretty as mine.'"

Some may interpret such a comment as a playful jest. Block doesn't.

"Because I was her daughter and she loved me, she was sad that my breasts weren't as pretty as hers," she said. "Mother was a classic narcissist; I don't think she had the capacity to consider my feelings. It was not ill-intended in any way--she just couldn't go beyond herself, and she couldn't even see the problem."

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Natalie Davis is an award-winning journalist, progressive- and GLBT-issues activist, musician and broadcaster. Davis' All Facts and Opinions - The Armchair Activist has existed since 1996. She is general manager and program/music director of Grateful Dread Radio, an 11-year-old multigenre Internet station dedicated to presenting diverse sounds for open minds.
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