Men are the confused of America, with women coming in a close second. The reason: Men are asked to be strong, silent, and always able to take charge of everything. Anything different is not allowed. And that is part of the problem.
We engage women in an aggressive manner because we think this is of interest to them. The woman who sees this is supposed to respond with affection. When a woman doesn’t, we feel that somehow there’s something wrong with us. The truth is, as much as a woman fears not being selected as the prey, we are afraid of not being respected as her potential hunter.
We reserve our thoughts on topics because we feel conversation is a time-waster and is better left to friends. Women, however, speak their minds when possible on everything, which we see as an annoyance. That fear of a conversation between a man and his mate is the fear that conversation gives a woman “ideas.” But what men and women don’t understand is that a man is merely the pet of a woman, not the other way around. She has more on the ball than you see, and it doesn’t take long for thoughts to come out.
We build our bodies up to look like the mythological beings of old time. Of course a woman, in the eyes of men, is supposed to respond to such strength because it’s a sign of protection against evil. And yet, the more we push our women to the back, the more they wish to be up front. When more of the things men are supposed to do go to the women, we feel that strength is just useless. When that strength becomes useless, we feel we are being pushed to the back, like a woman is usually supposed to feel.
Being a man is more about being honest with yourself than any one stereotype. It’s okay to fall back on those standards of old and let the woman do some of the work. It’s good to let yourself say more than “give me a beer” and “pass the booty” to your spouse. It’s right to treat a woman like an equal. Invest some time in her, because she doesn’t actually need you. Everyone is expendable in a relationship.