I’m amused by my friend’s view of her son’s sexuality. He’s a strapping, athletic male of 28. Nevertheless, in my friend’s eyes, “Ian” is a victim of a succession of marauding females.
The tragedy just happened again. Ian disappeared for three days and didn’t call. When she told me I had to smile. Sure enough, he was last seen in the company of an amorous female. She is suspected to have something to do with his disappearance.
My friend, “Maggie,” describes her son as a retiring guy set loose in a world of demons. According to her, he doesn’t believe in premarital sex. I don’t know him, but I don’t know that many young guys who feel that way. It turned out that he did eventually have sex with his schoolteacher girlfriend but sadly, they parted because she smokes ice. He moved back to be near his mother but she doesn’t really have a proper place for him to stay.
In no time, he ended up staying on the couch of a nice girl he met. It turns out though that she has worked as a stripper. That’s how my friend told it, her son primly sleeping on the couch while his stripper hostess sleeps in the bedroom. Just heard that they eventually did have sex. [Maggie tells me these things whether I want to hear it or not.] Maybe these girls like forbidden fruit.
That was the latest development until the last disappearance. It could be that Ian has some kind of Christian belief about sexual morality that slows things down some. Once I had occasion to call Ian. I heard crude rap music playing and a brusque young guy answered the phone. Turns out this was a friend if his. He himself was polite. His mom says they only play rap when that friend comes over.
A long time ago Maggie told me that when he was a teenager, a female adult neighbor “took” Ian’s virginity. This really bothered her. I wonder if it was much of a struggle. Maggie herself is a hippie. She owns The Magic Limo that I wrote about on another thread.
I’m not a parent. I notice that a lot of parents see their kids as sexually innocent no matter how unlikely that may be. I guess something about changing diapers does that to you. I hope that Ian will be safe out there, 6’3″ that he is.
written in spring of 2004